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Effects Of Late Marriage. by silasloaded (m): 11:38pm on April 14
Kanu Okoronkwo Silas
Abia State University
Political Science
200Level, Nigeria.
When I came to the knowledge of
this truth way back in the
secondary school, I made up my
mind to marry before the age of 30
against all odds.
My had dad died at a retirement
age of 64 when I was 7 and my
younger brother was 4. The dead
man left no plans or economic
arrangements to train both the
younger and far older children in
school or in trade.
This mistake is being repeated
today by even far more educated
and exposed people. We do this
and claim a non-existent covenant
with God when we should have
applied the common sense God
gave us.
Don't say you didn't read this wise
counsel from here. It is a
knowledge so obvious but easily
ignored to one's private regret.
I decided that I would not repeat
the same mistake my father made
hence my determination to marry
at 30 which I later realized was
even too late.
HARD FACTS FOR GUYS
Assuming you get married at 30
and your wife conceives and
delivers your first child when you
are 31, the following would likely
play out:
Because the average age of
graduation in the Nigerian
universities these days is 26 then,
you shall be 57 at the graduation
ceremony of your first child.
Also assume that you have 3 kids
with an average spacing age of 2
years then your last child would be
5 years younger than the first.
Therefore, you shall be over 63 at
the graduation ceremony of your
last child.
ISSUES: Look around you and you
shall notice the increasing rate of
delayed conception and child
mortality which is 1/400 (i.e one
new born baby out of 400 to
Nigerian parents dies in the
hospitals) and if you factor in the
possibility that there might be
delays in conception and assign a
number of years to this possibility
say for instance, add 4years to that,
then a man may be 67 years at the
graduation of the last of his three
children.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER
1. All civil servants must retire at 60
while professors and judges retire
at 70.
2. Average life expectancy in
Nigeria is now 47 years for men
and 48 for women meaning that
most Nigerian men die before the
age of 48.
The above implies that you would
be retired and may not be able to
earn enough money to pay the
school fees of your last child
starting from his/her third year in
the university.
It's worse for bankers because the
Central Bank of Nigeria has capped
the age of retirement of bankers at
60. Ninety percent of them are
sacked before the age of 50.
Most banks now find reasons to
retrench their staff once they clock
55.
HARD FACTS FOR LADIES
Hardships in the extended families
and need to work to augment
income, the pursuits of careers,
feminism, long stay in school, sheer
greed, materialism, choosiness and
other factors have singularily or
combined to make women delay in
committing to marriage much
earlier.
INFORMATION TO CONSIDER :
1. Science says that the best age for
a woman to have less
complications during child birth is
between 18 and 25 all things being
equal.
2. Most professional ladies now
marry at over 30 years of age and
have difficulties either in
conception or post delivery
complications. This has posed great
gynecological challenges for non-
circumspective couples. They spend
so much to get pregnant and
sometimes the women die in so
doing.
3. In most cases, fibroids occur
when the womb lays fallow for so
long a time without conception.
This is not the only cause of fibrous
growth.
ISSUES: Imagine both parents being
retired and cannot provide for their
undergraduate children.
The inability of well meaning
children to cater for the financial
needs of their intelligent children
has fuelled student prostitution in
civil service states of Enugu, Owerri,
Abeokuta, Akure, and around
university campuses.
AGE LONG ADVICE TO AN ONLY SON
If you are an only son or if your
desire in marriage is to beget
children, ensure that you marry a
lady in her early twenties and
never beyond 26 so that even if
you have fertility challenges and it
takes up to 10 years to be resolved,
you still have a fertile wife.
Since the birth of Isaac and John de
Baptist, no very old woman has
ever given birth through natural
means to a natural child.
Please note that IVF, Artificial
Insemination and Surrogacy
techniques are expensive with no
assurance of success after huge
expenditure.
GENERAL ADVICE
If you intend to have children in
marriage, please marry early
enough to avoid birth
complications. You need to do so
when you are capable of
shouldering your responsibility
before you port to the netherworld
.
You can still achieve all you want
with careful planning. Many
women who married early have
made it to the highest levels of
their professions. Some are
managing directors of big
corporations and are doing well.
I know that some readers would
start pointing at Abraham and
Sarah, Hannah, the mother of
Samuel and other isolated cases.
The can continue.
However, a visit to fertility clinics
and gynecological section of a
teaching hospital shall speak
common sense to a young girl and
boy. A younger woman with
fertility issues stand better chance
of conception than a lady in her
late 30s or 40s.
If you have problems with the facts
I adduced, please consult a medical
personnel for clarifications.
SCARY TRUTH
1. There is a disturbing likelihood
that a child conceived at a later age
would be born with Down
Syndrome or Mongolia Disease.
These children look alike
irrespective of races.
2. Some women now approach
menopause as early as 35. Why opt
for treatment when it could be
avoided?
3. Men's sexual libido reduces with
age. A man is at his best when he is
below 40. There is an extent Viagra
and other performance-enhancing
drugs can go. They may also make
a man see his creator much earlier.
4. There is every likelihood that if
you marry late to a sexually active
woman and fail to satisfy her that
you may lose her to intimacy
gadgets or gigolos. Some of this
type end up in a divorce.
5. Reminiscence of old couple of
their early life great sex is
sometimes enough for them to
reach orgasm. You have great sex
when your engines are new or
fairly new.
NB
Medicine records that females'
sexual libido increases with age
while the males' reduces with age.
But age does not affect a man's
ability to impregnate a woman but
the act would be a mere
inoculation for old men.
My first Degree is in medicine
related course, so I know what I am
saying. I also now that miracles
occur but not for everyone or at
our own choosing.
Please marry early if you can.

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Re: Effects Of Late Marriage. by silasloaded (m): 6:27am on April 15
Kanu Okoronkwo Silas
Abia State University
Political Science
200Level, Nigeria.
YES, IT IS GOOD TO MARRY EARLY AND KNOW EACH OTHER VERY WELL. THEN, IT HELPS TO PUT TO BED EARLY AND PLANNED YOUR FUTURE VERY WELL.
SilasLoaded

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