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Rufai Oladimeji
Lagos State University
100Level, Nigeria.

Assalam alaikoum. My question covers
family relationships. I have a sister in
law that is neurotically self centered.
One time I was telling her "None of you
has faith unless he loves for his brother
what he loves for himself". She
responded this is tough because I would
want my children to be better than
yours. Knowing I am single and she was
then pregnant and married to a very
successful physician. she also went to
hajj as soon as she got married to my
brother and seems to have a very
strong and going life for her. I am at a
loss. She and her family had occasions
before her marriage being very rude
and my brother is usually unreasonable
if anyone says anything about her. I ask
because I find my self in a very difficult
situation. How do I deal with some who
said this to me to be at m best and not
infuriated. I was shocked and quieted
but must admit feel we should all hope
everyone is good to be in a better
society. What practically would you
advice me to do to deal with those
people and particularly about what she
said to me. Jazak Allah Khairan.

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord
of the Worlds. I testify that there is
none worthy of worship except Allah,
and that Muhammad is His slave
and Messenger.

It is very normal for a person to wish
that his children be better than other
children, this is a natural instinct. So, it
is permissible for you to ask Allah to
bless you with a pious husband
and with children who will be better
than hers, and this is not being egoistic
on your part exactly as it is not egoism
on her part. Also, this does not
necessarily mean that she does not wish
good for your children or for others'
It seems that you took the matter
sensitively to an unbearable extent, and
it might be that there is a kind of
jealousy that leads to this rivalry.

Therefore, everybody must fear Allah
and be preoccupied by what benefits
him/her in this life and in the

First of all, we advise you particularly
to take it easy and not think about what
she said to you, rather turn to Allah,
the All-Knower, and ask Him to bless
you with His Bounties. Allah Says (what
means) : {And ask Allah of His bounty.
Indeed Allah is ever, of all things,
Knowing.} [Quran 4:32]

As regards your brother, he should be
wise; he should prevent the injustice of
the wrongdoer, and protect the
wronged person from injustice and he
should not favor one party at the
expense of the other.

Allah Knows best.


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