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Rufai Oladimeji
Lagos State University
100Level, Nigeria.

Assalamo alaikom, I married a
converted Muslim. While we
were married he used to chat
with another woman from my
country. I asked them to stop,
but both were very attached to
each other. She invited him to
visit her. Their relationship
became stronger, so he divorced
me and he marry her, because
he said he is not happy with
me. I have a child with him. I
feel sad and depressed because
I loved him and I did everything
to make him happy. When I
read that man has the right to
divorce his wife if he is not
happy with her and he has the
right to marry the woman he
loves, I taught if man can marry
and divorce whenever he desire
then what about our feeling and
our efforts. So my question is,
Allah soubhanaho wataala will
punish this woman because, she
destroyed my family? And what
about him, is he sinner? Is his
reason to divorce is accepted.
She was also mean to me and
she sent an email abusing me.
They both transgress me. Note
he was married two times
before he marries me and this
is his fourth wife. He also
stopped praying for a long time,
but then he started to pray
when he proposed to her. Can I
pray against them because what
they cause me of pain and
destruction? Jazakoum Allaho


All perfect praise be to Allah,
The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of
worship except Allah, and that
Muhammad is His slave and

The relationship between your
husband and that woman before
their marriage was a forbidden
relationship, and if that woman
spoilt the marital relationship
between him and you and she
endeavored to make him
divorce you, then she is even
more sinful. Abu Hurayrah, may
Allah be pleased with him,
narrated that the Prophet
said: “He is not one of us he
who incited a woman against
her husband.” [Ahmad and Abu
Daawood ‏]

The scholars said: “It
means he incited her by
beautifying for her the enmity
of her husband….and the same
thing applies to inciting a
husband against his wife ”.
If what you mentioned is true
that that woman sent you a
letter abusing you, then she is
also sinful for doing so. The
same thing applies to your
husband if he transgressed
against you.

As regards a husband divorcing
his wife, then it is disliked if
there is no valid reason for it. If
there is a valid reason, it is
permissible. If your husband
feels that he is not happy with
you, then he is permitted to
divorce you, and it might be
good for you; you never know.
Perhaps Allah wanted good for
you by your husband divorcing
you; Allah Says (what means):
{But if they separate [by
divorce], Allah will enrich each
[of them] from His abundance.
And ever is Allah Encompassing
and Wise.}[Quran 4:130 ‏]
It might be that Allah will bless
you with a pious husband who
abides by the rulings of the
Sharee’ah. So, you should
supplicate for this effect and
you should seek the help of
some pious sisters or some
trustworthy brothers to look for
a pious husband for you.

Finally, it should be noted that
it is permissible to supplicate
against a transgressor even if
he is a Muslim, but this is in
case there is really injustice.
However, being patient and not
supplicating against the
transgressor is better; Allah
Says (what means): {And to
forego is nearer to
righteousness.}[Quran 2:237]

Allah Knows best.


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