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Her Husband Died And She Has Some Questions About Her Children, Their Inheritance And Maintenance, And Can She Remain A Widow?

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Rufai Oladimeji
Lagos State University
100Level, Nigeria.
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I am 24 yrs old and my husband
was 28 yrs old. He died in a car
accident a couple months ago; Allah
yarhamhu wa askanahu to the
highest stage of heavens, in sha
Allah. I am very very depressed
because we are too young and have
2 boys. Before my husband died, he
bought us a house and a third of a
halal gas station. I have many
questions in my mind and I
understood when you said do not
write more than 1 question but i am
going through a lot now and I want
to do what is best for the sake of
Allah. I do not want Allah to hate
me if I did something wrong, this is
why I am seeking help from you
guys to get my questions answered.
My husband's family is in Yemen
and I brought my husband to the
United States. So Ii live in the
United States. But as for the halal
gas station; i hear it goes to my
kids since they are boys; but i am
trying to do what is good so I
decided to let the gas station run
and split the income half for me
and my kids and half for his family
in Yemen. Like I said, I don't want
Allah to hate me if this is wrong
because he used to support his
family in Yemen. Also, at what age
should I give them their wealth. I
also want to know if I am allowed to
ask Allah to keep me as a widow
until we reunite in sha Allah in
Jannah. I know I am too young but
I love my husband so much and I
only want to be with him and no
one else. And is it true if I raise my
orphan children as well as I can in
Islam, I may be able to go to
heaven with Muhammad (peace and
blessings be upon him). And since I
live in the USA, I get social security
income from the government; am I
allowed to use some of that money
for Hajj for myself and for my
husband; I will try to use as much
money from the gas station for Hajj
but if i didn't make enough money
is it ok if I use money from the
government? Is my husband
considered a shaheed since he died
from a drunk driving car accident? I
hope Allah reunites us together in
the Hereafter. I also want to know
if I am allowed to visit my
husband's grave with my kids and
the last question, what is the best
way to raise my boys in an Islamic
way; one is 4 yrs old and one is a 1
yr old.


Praise be to Allah
May Allah increase your reward and
have mercy on your husband; may
He grant you patience and help you
to raise your children.
The answers to your questions are
as follows:

Whatever your husband has left
behind of wealth, property, a
business and so on belongs to his
heirs, who are: you, your two
children, your husband’s father or
grandfather, and also his mother or
grandmother if they are still alive.
Your portion of his share in the gas
station – and any other wealth he
left behind – is one eighth, and the
rest goes to your children, unless
your husband’s father is alive, in
which case he has one sixth, or if
his mother is alive, she has one
sixth. The grandfather takes the
father’s share if the father is not
alive, and the grandmother takes
the mother’s share if she is not

You have to look after your
children’s wealth and you should
invest it in a way that will benefit
them. It is not permissible to give it
to them until they reach maturity.
Please see the answer to question

Your kindness towards your
husband’s family is a righteous
deed, but it should be from your
wealth and your share of the gas
station. It is not permissible to give
it from your children’s share,
because the one who is looking after
an orphan’s property has no right to
give charity or gifts from it.

You should not ask Allah, may He be
exalted, to let you remain a widow,
because this is contrary to what is
encouraged in Islam. Rather you
should get married, and ask Allah
for a righteous husband, because of
the many benefits and noble
purposes of marriage, which
include: seeking to have righteous
children and form a Muslim family;
protecting oneself from falling into
haram or into the traps of the
Shaytan; and strengthening the
bonds between Muslims through ties
of marriage. If someone proposes to
you who is religiously committed
and of good character, and you
think it most likely that he will take
care of your children and help you
to bring them up, then you should
accept him. This is better for you
than remaining without a husband,
especially at your age and in the
country where you are living.

Sponsoring orphans, bringing them
up and helping them are among the
greatest means of drawing closer to
Allah, and they are a means of
being with the Prophet (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him) in
It was narrated from Sahl ibn Sa‘d
that the Prophet (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) said: “I
and the one who sponsors an
orphan will be in paradise like this”–
and he gestured with his forefinger
and middle finger (to signify
Narrated by al-Bukhari, 5659
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah
said: The Messenger of Allah
(blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) said: “The one who
sponsors an orphan, whether it is a
relative of his or not, he and I will
be like these two in Paradise,” and
Malik pointed with his forefinger
and middle finger.
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy
on him) said: With regard to the
phrase “whether he is related to
him or not”, “related to him” means
if he is a relative, such as his
grandfather, mother, grandmother,
brother, sister, paternal uncle,
maternal uncle, paternal aunt,
maternal aunt, or other relatives.
“Or not (related to him)” means if
he is a stranger (a non-relative).
Sharh Muslim, 18/113.
Please see the answer to question

There is nothing wrong with you
benefiting from Social Security and
using that money to go for Hajj, so
long as you are entitled to it
according to the conditions laid out
by the government.

If a person dies in a car accident,
there is the hope that he will be a
shaheed (martyr), because he is like
one who dies beneath a collapsed
building. Please see the answer to
question no.

There is a difference of scholarly
opinion concerning women visiting
graves. Some of them say that it is
permissible, some say that it is
makrooh (disliked) and some say
that it is haram (prohibited). If you
refrain from doing that, that will be
better for you and more on the safe
side, especially in this situation you
describe, when the calamity is still
recent. Such actions will stir up your
grief again and may cause you to do
something that is contrary to
Islamic teaching.
Please see the answer to question
There is nothing wrong with your
children visiting their father’s
grave, because visiting graves is
mustahabb (encouraged) for people
other than women.

You must pay close attention to
your children at this age, and bring
them up with good morals and
values. Teach them to memorise the
Book of Allah, may He be exalted,
and to love good; make them get
used to offering prayer regularly.
You should also get in touch with
Islamic centres and some righteous
sisters; this will be very good for
you and your children.
We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to
help and guide you.
And Allah knows best.


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