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Her Husband Engaged In Foreplay With Her In Ramadan, And She Thought To Let Him Have Intercourse With Her...

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Rufai Oladimeji
Lagos State University
100Level, Nigeria.

There is a woman whose husband
engaged in foreplay with her after
Fajr in Ramadan, and she said to
him: Leave me alone so that I do
not break my fast. But he persisted
despite her request. Then she
turned her back on him and ignored
him, and she said to herself: Let
him do whatever he wants, so that
my fast will be broken but he will
take the sin. And after she said that
to herself, he left her alone and did
not do anything. But when she
thought that, her only intention
was that he alone should take the
sin, and she did not intend to break
her fast or to eat or drink. I am
afraid that what I thought may be a
cause of my fast being spoiled, if I
truly intended to break the fast
because of that, or it was a mere
I hope that you will give a detailed
reply about the nature of my
intention to break the fast for this
reason, or was it mere thoughts.
Also, sometimes I am faced with
waswaas concerning my intention
or the validity of my fast, so please
advise me.


Praise be to Allah
If a person intends to break his fast
whilst he is fasting, and has decided
to do so, and is not hesitant about
it, his fast is rendered invalid
according to the correct opinion,
even if he changes his mind about
that intention, and he has to make
up that day.
But if he is hesitant about breaking
the fast, or makes it conditional
upon something, such as if he says:
If I find food or drink, I will break
my fast, then he does not find
anything, in that case his fast is
still valid.
Ash-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may
Allah have mercy on him) was
A man was travelling and fasting in
Ramadan, and he intended to break
his fast, but he could not find
anything with which to break his
fast. Then he changed his mind
about that intention and completed
the fast until Maghrib. Is his fast
He replied:
His fast is not valid and he has to
make it up, because when he
intended to break the fast, he broke
the fast. But if he had said: If I find
water, I will drink it, otherwise I will
continue my fast, and he did not
find water, in this case his fast is
still valid, because he did not
definitely intend to break it; rather
he made breaking the fast
conditional upon the availability of
something, and that thing did not
become available, so his original
intention remained in effect.
End quote from Liqa al-Bab al-
Maftooh (29/20).
What appears to be the case is that
what happened with you is the
latter: in other words, you made
breaking the fast conditional upon
your husband continuing with this
matter, which he did not do.
Intending to break the fast is one
thing, and making it conditional
upon something that did not happen
is something else, on which the
ruling is different.
Based on that, your fast is valid and
you do not have to make it up.
But if you did intend to break the
fast, or you think it most likely now
that this was your intention, then
your fast was invalidated and you
have to make up that day.
If you feel something like that in
your heart and you want to be on
the safe side and fast another day
to make up for that day, then this
is good, in sha Allah.
Please see the answer to question
no. .
But if you are usually affected by
waswas regarding your intention or
the validity of acts of worship, then
do not repeat the fast of that day,
and assume that it was valid.
Beware of getting carried away with
waswas, for this leads to much
trouble and evil, and will not stop
until it spoils a person’s worship
and his religious commitment as a
There have been many answers on
our website that warn against
getting carried away with waswas.

If a man is able to control himself
and prevent himself from getting
carried away and transgressing the
limits of Allah by having intercourse
or ejaculating, then it is permissible
for him whilst fasting to engage in
intimacy with his wife by embracing
her, kissing her and so on.
Please see the answer to question
no. .

It is not permissible for a woman to
try to make her husband fall into a
haram action, or to approve of that.
Rather what she must do is stop
him and prevent him from doing
that to the best of her ability. The
Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever
among you sees an evil action, then
let him change it with his hand [by
taking action]; if he cannot, then
with his tongue [by speaking out];
and if he cannot, then with his
heart – and that is the weakest of
faith.” Narrated by Muslim (49).
Letting your husband do that,
without trying to stop him, so that
he would do something forbidden,
commit sin and be exposed to the
punishment of Allah in the month of
mercy is a haram aim and striving
to make someone commit an act of
disobedience to Allah, or approving
thereof. Ash-Shaykh Ibn
‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy
on him) said:
The one who sees someone eating
or drinking in Ramadan, and knows
that he is fasting, should remind
him, because if he forgot then he is
excused, but you did not forget.
Allah, may He be exalted, says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“Help you one another in Al‑Birr and
At‑Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and
piety)” [al-Maidah 5:2].
Al-Liqa ash-Shahri (70/44)
If this is obligatory with regard to
all people, then how about if it is
one’s husband? Undoubtedly in this
case it is even more obligatory, and
his rights over you are more
So you must repent and seek
forgiveness, and not do such a thing
again. You should be the best helper
to your husband in matters
pertaining both to this world and
the Hereafter, therefore, if you see
him committing a sin or wanting to
commit a sin, you should tell him
not to do that and remind him of
And Allah knows best.


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