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8 Dating Advice For A First Date. by Michaelkingblog (m): 4:02am on December 7
Michael Osorhor
Delta state polytechnic otefe oghara ( DESPO )
Graduate, Nigeria.
The first date is an essential moment for starting a relationship. First impressions are important, and you have to stack all odds in your favor in order to seduce the woman you are dating. Here are my 8 advice to be at your best for the first date:

1) Grooming

Visual appearance is important, for the man but also for the woman. She will spend lots of time in order to prepare herself to make a good first impression. You are entitled to do the same:

Shave yourself or groom your beard. She has to see that you are making an effort on your face, she should be able to imagine kissing you.
Put a nice shirt that is fitted. Tee-shirts are comfortable however they are not suited as much as a shirt for a date. No need to bring a three-piece suit, a well-fitted shirt will be enough to have a clean look.
Polish your shoes! Women easily notice this kind of details. Clean shoes will make her think that you know how to take care of your stuff… and of her also. They do not look for a dirty man.
2) Smells

Smells are important. For your first date, you will want to get close to her in order to build a sexual tension. Nothing worse than a bad smell to prevent this from happening. When I was salsa dancing, I made an effort to always smell good with 3 actions. Deodorant, mint and perfume. I was known as the man who smelt good even after 3 hours of classes. I would do these actions every two hours in order to ensure that my smell was not bad.

These gestures prevent you from second-guessing yourself about your smell. Do them and do not think about them. A little word on fragrance. Forget about perfumes sold in supermarket, you are a man not a teenager. You go to a cosmetic shop, and you ask to the girl seller to advise you on a perfume for a first date. Ideal to go out of your comfort zone and work on approach anxiety.

3) Location

Concerning date location, I recommend an activity followed by a bar to debrief on how the activity went. A show, a movie, a yoga session, a salsa class…
Avoid restaurant for the first date for two main reasons. Eating will weight your stomach and there is nothing there that will build sexual tension efficiently in a restaurant. Moreover, it will put some pressure on you by giving a standard frame to your date. Go out of beaten paths and clichés!

Regarding the bar, I advise a lounge bar which will let you, from the beginning or later in the night, to go near her and thereby getting closer to her and be a lot more seductive.

Who’s paying? You obviously…

Do not let this part be awkward. When the waiter is bringing the bill, you put your credit card and you do not look at the bill itself. This will show the girl the confidence you have. Take this opportunity to leave a tip when leaving. These moves are very well seen and welcomed from girl perspective.
If she does propose to share, you can say to her with a smile that indeed, there is no problem, she can invite you the next time.

4) Smile

Smile! Have fun with the person in front of you. Do not stress out by making a million stories in your head. Whatever the future, be present for what you are doing and live the moment. The worst that could happened is that it will not work with this girl and you will still have spent a lovely evening. It is essential to start your first date on a positive note.

Smiling will share your emotional state. Use it as a seduction weapon!

5) Conversation

Lead the conversation. This does not mean that you should do a speech however you have to maintain it by asking opened-ended questions and by telling stories that happened to you. Moreover, if you have practiced together an activity (as a first part for the date), it will be easier to find a discussion topic to start. You can share what pleased or displeased you from this experience. Be honest, do not agree systematically with the girl at the risk of falling into friendzone, you have to say what you really think.

6) To kiss or not to kiss, that is the question

It is a question that you can ask yourself. If signs are there, then why not? You will have to take the plunge anyway. Always start step by step. Look at her languorously, get near her, touch her. If you do see you getting closer together, it’s in the bag! Do not hesitate to touch her, even if it means taking her in your arms before kissing her.

Avoid, as you often see in the movies or on the television, to see her to the door in order to kiss her with a bravery momentum. This step has to be taken before in order to avoid any misunderstanding or awkwardness. If you did not kiss her before, do not do it after, wait for the next date.

7) Having sex on the first date

I took this principle from the beginning, I never propose to a girl to sleep with her on the first date. If she does want it, why not. What I refuse is to put any social pressure on the girl, who might ask herself the question at the risk of being seen as an easy lay. If you kissed her, no need to go further if you do not want to put pressure on her.

Let her keep an excellent memory of this evening in your company. She will fantasize your time together and will only want to see you more and more as time passes. You can wait some days, it will only be more intense on your next date with her.

8) Send her a little message!

Once you went apart and you reached home, send a little SMS text in order to thank her for the excellent evening that you spent with her by calling her pretty/beautiful/superb… This will let a last memory of you before going to sleep and will not let any doubt on your intentions!


If you do follow these 8 advice, you will stand out from the crowd and you will put all odds on your side to close with the woman you desire.
Have you more advice for a first date?

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