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Divorce The Cantankerous Issue. by SocratesJrUnn (m): 12:23am on November 8
, Nigeria.
What's the meaning of the term DIVORCE?

Divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body.

With tears in My eyes and holes in My heart, I write this. Don't blame me for who I am or what I've done, nope don't! But blame them. They've done more harm than good to me. Who are they?

Couples once bound in love torn apart by the carelessness of the tongue. What resulted to this misfits? As I watched her handling over the divorce papers to him, meaning 'IT'S OVER', I was totally in tears. It all started with statements like, " You don't care for My Parents, you only look after yours, "Shut up! I'm the man of the house and I do whatever I want to do". And guess what? She kept shut. The major issue came to place when Finance became the troubling issue in the house and that's not because he isn't earning much but because he unwisely spends it and lavish it on women of the streets. And so, when she was tired of it all, the divorce letter sets in and that was the end. I held her bag tightly and said, "Mum" with my child like voice and tears running over my eyes. I said "Mum, plea...s..e don't go, Mum pl...e..s..e, stay" but lo! Mum. Mum? Mum has already made up her mind to leave. I saw Mum looking at me with tears but it was as though she's helpless. And that was the last of Mum I saw.
It is with this bleeding heart and cloudy eyes, I write this article. I'm proud to say publicly, that I have a girlfriend with whom I'm well please and we're deeply in love. I can't just imagine that after we both get married, we'll then divorce. After the years we've both spent staying together, we'll then divorce? So, I'll ask, is there any thing like "True love" between you and your partner? because a couple that got married 3 weeks ago just got divorced. Is divorce truly the best thing to do?

Men! Please remember the strain you went through into convincing this women to accept you. You complain that she now looks frail but you were the one who made her so. She wasn't frail when you met her, in fact you called her YOUR WORLD and BREATH. What's wrong now? Why the complaints? You were the one who said, FOR BETTER OR WORSE, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, TILL DEATH SEPARATE YOU BOTH.
How well do you know the personality of your spouse? Is she or he Melancholic, Sanguine, phlegmatic and the others? Study your personality.

1. It hurts Children the most not the other parties: According to Brian M.D' Onofrio PhD, in Encyclopedia on early childhood development, he stated that, "Parental separation/divorce is associated with academic difficulties, including lower grades and prematurely dropping out of school, and greater disruptive behaviours (e.g., being oppositional with authority figures, getting into fights, stealing, and using and abusing alcohol and illegal drugs). Children and adolescents who experience the divorce of their parents also have higher rates of depressed mood, lower self-esteem, and emotional distress.

Parental divorce is also associated with negative outcomes and earlier life transitions as offspring enter young adulthood and later life. Children of divorce are more likely to experience poverty, educational failure, early and risky sexual activity, non-marital childbirth, earlier marriage, cohabitation, marital discord and divorce. In fact, emotional problems associated with divorce actually increase during young adulthood"
2. It affects the Children psychologically.
3. It increases the cost of living since both partners will then depend on themselves.
3. It breaks created relationships.
4. Divorce hurt both parties.
5. Starting a new relationship is tasking.
6. It lead to illness. The Chicago study involving 8,652 people aged 51 to 61, found divorced people have 20% more chronic illnesses such as cancer than those who never marry.
7. Psychological trauma for both parties.
8. A vacuum is created.

Don't rush into divorce, remember we all have both good and bad times. Are you too weak to fight those hard times? Don't give up because by perseverance the snail reached the ark. What's then the purpose of dating? Couples think before divorcing.


©Socrates Jr

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