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The Truth About Cohabitation. by SocratesJrUnn (m): 1:19am on November 8
, Nigeria.
She said to him, "I thought you loved Me," but his decision has already been made as he sends her packing. They were once in love, in love? They fell in love but sure, they don't know what true love means. It's over between them and that's the end. Maria and Derek have been lovers for a year before the breakup. Intensified by the spirit of falling in love, Maria decided to leave her paternal home to dwell with Derek thinking that he loves her as she does to him. Well, he once did but now that spirit is dead.

When one falls in love he becomes absent or blind about the true nature of the other person. He sees the other party as PERFECT but what happens after living with that person for awhile and the true nature of that person starts coming out? That's what I term fanciful love. You never loved the person for who he or she is but because he's handsome or she's beautiful. You fell for his/her looks and that's the mistake you made. Let's proceed.

Cohabitation is the state of living together and having sexual relationship without being married. I termed it 'Marriage based on trial'. Because of the fears of getting married, people cohabit so as to test the authenticity of their relationship, that is, if it'll really work. The rate of cohabiting is skyrocketing not only in the Western world but also in Africa. I've seen the teens of Bayelsa state, Nigeria, Africa leaving their paternal homes and then stay together, have sexual relationship and then give birth to Kids. Is this practice the absolute way of solving the divorce issues?

It's a true fact that when we fall in love, we are 100% foolish. By that I meant every other sayings from parents concerning our lover seems to annoy you. You don't want to hear any negative comments about that person but alas! We end up saying, "I never believed I was that foolish" and then you remember the warnings of your Parents and friends. You never loved that person but you fell in love and falling in love is an unconscious act. You were controlled by your feelings and not your senses.

Let's hear what Zack Carter says concerning this skyrocketing of cohabitation.


Research released late this summer indicates that due to the intense increase in both divorce and cohabitation throughout a large portion of the industrialized world over the last couple of decades, divorce may be a significant stimulus for the increase in cohabitation.

Demographers (those studying developments that occur at the population level—the macro—while also accepting the significance of conclusions made at the individual level—the micro) analyzed quantitative data, and conducted qualitative interview examinations, across 16 countries to determine whether data support the notion that the upsurge in divorce drove the upsurge in cohabitation.

Their research argues that divorce, in many cases, leads to the acceptance of cohabitation through the dissemination of new social patterns and beliefs about marriage, the method of social learning from parents who divorced, and the personal practice of divorce.

Though there are bounds of thoughts and theories as to why marriages sometimes end, what specifically is facilitating the growth of thought—at both the macro and the micro level—that the increase in divorce potentially may have been one of the social changes accelerating the increase in cohabitation.

Now what're the effects of cohabitation?

1. Cohabiting parents have the higher rate of divorcing: gregburdine at Divi stated this fact, "Most couples who live together are considering marriage. At least one person in 90% of the couples wants to marry. Some are already engaged. But please consider the facts. 40% of all couples who live together will break up before marriage. Many suffer what has been termed ‘premarital divorce.’ So, of 100 couples who begin a ‘trial marriage’, 40 don’t marry. Of the 60 couples who do wed, there are 45 divorces after 10 years. That’s an 85% failure rate.

Marriages that are preceded by living together have a 50% higher disruption rate (divorce or separation) than marriages without premarital cohabitation according to the National Survey of Families and Households. Statistics show that living together hurts your chances of a happy marriage".

2. It can destroy that Friendship you've created for a long period of time.

3. The Children are most likely to be constantly depressed, perform poorly in almost everything and most of them end up committing suicide.

4. Cohabitation creates more ground for divorce and shatters family relationship.

I'll advise you to avoid sex before Marriage. Is Cohabitation the best way to avoid Divorce issues?

©Socrates Jr

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